If our Scruples is CLEAR...

Trust is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves. If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character." It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness. It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations. Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear.

Becoming a future leader in organized crime

What is the meaning of life? Why are we here? Is there a God or isn’t there, and if there is a God, Why do we call nature as God? What is Love? What is its nature? Of all the world’s religions, which one is the most correct? Is there an afterlife? Why do we fall in love? Why is she and He made for? Are we primarily physical beings or spiritual beings?

Do you have answers for these questions???

People have struggled for millennia to tackle these questions. Wars have been fought over them. But as much as these questions cause people to lose their heads (sometimes figuratively, sometimes literally), the bottom line is that these are very practical questions.

Behind the Wheel !!!
The way we answer these questions will provide the ultimate context for everything else we do with our lives. If we place any value on our lives at all, we must give some consideration to these questions.

Let’s say you have your life organized around goals, projects, and actions. You set a goal like starting a new internet business. You break it down into projects like writing a business plan and launching your web site. And then you break those projects down into actions like going to the bank to open a business account and registering your domain name. Fair enough.

But why start the business in the first place? What’s the point? Why pick this goal vs. any other goal? Why even set goals at all?

What determines the goals you set (or don’t set) is your context. Your context is your collection of beliefs and values. So if the values of money and freedom are part of your context, you might be inclined to set a goal to start a new business. But with different kinds of values — a different context — you may be disinclined to set goals at all.

The most significant part of your context is your collection of beliefs about the nature of reality, which includes your truths, religious, spiritual, and philosophical beliefs. Your overall beliefs about the universe will largely determine your results. Context dictates goals. Goals dictate projects. Projects dictate actions. Actions dictate results.

Within a certain context, it will be virtually impossible for you to achieve certain results because you’ll never set the required goals that will lead to those results.

Your context works like a filter. When you are inside a particular context, you lose access to the potential goals, projects, and actions that lie outside that context. For example, if your context includes the belief that criminal behavior is very bad, then you aren’t likely to work towards becoming a future leader in organised crime.

Dont claim to be a mental guru...

Everyone you talk to will ultimately give you different advice on what a successful relationship is all about, what it consists of and how to make it work. After many years of troubled relationships and being places for the wrong reasons I realise there is only one place you can find the answers to your relationship and life problems and that is within yourself. So the journey of self realisation begins. My goal of this blog is to hopefully help people along that journey of self realisation.

My journey of enlightenment started 2 years ago when my mom passed away from Heart Attack. At that time I had such an awesome person in my life from a Elegant perspective, great friends, and what I would consider a well balanced life. When you lose someone that means so much to you and you don't deal with the loss you tend to shut down so no one can touch you in a way that is meaningful. Anything that happens to you that causes immense amounts of sadness, guilt, resentment and pain you ultimately need closure around or you start distancing yourself from life. If you don't get closure your mind starts building, for lack of better words, walls. These walls ultimately in your subconscious mind keeps you safe. Let me tell you two words that describes that process best though is.. MENTAL DEATH. Your friends, family and that special someone in your life ultimately loses you so I think Death of yourself is most appropriate.

Run, stay busy, ignore the obvious, don't let the pain catch you, don't reflect, don't get to close to anyone are some of the best ways I can describe what goes on in your head. Again, most of this going on while you really aren't aware of what you are doing because most of it is going on in your subconscious. Friends go away, you ultimately drive that special someone in your life away because they ultimately get tired of trying to connect. Sadness reigns, self esteem drops and ultimately the person everyone loved so much prior to these life altering events experiences DEATH of ones self. Now one might say why not end it just get it over with, well I would be lying if I said that never crossed my mind but I just don't have it in me to quit at anything its not how my DNA is wired. I do feel sorry for those that aren't wired in the same way and choose that path so hopefully this journal may help someone that is wired differently push though as opposed to giving up.

I feel today I sit in front of you writing this as a changed person and it is due to self realisation. Two factors played into this for me and that is having someone special in my life that didn't give up on me coupled with the final leg of the journey and that was getting extremely ill for 3 months with xxxxxx. Now I wouldn't suggest going out and getting xxxxxx to hit this point of self realisation, because it can absolutely be done without it. xxxxxx gave me 3 months of down time to reflect on my relationships, the past, my priorities what I wanted out of life etc. Instead of xxxxxx what I would suggest is the following:

1. Get yourself a note book, sit in a quiet place and just think about you and your life for a while until you get to a point you have a lot of emotion brewing inside.

2. Start WRITTING.. what you want out of life, where you want to go, who you want to be, how you want people to view you etc.. etc.. etc.. most importantly if you want that special someone in your life write down what you out of that relationship and how you visualise it.. most important and this is key be VERY descriptive of the above.. when I did this several months ago I came up with over 10 pages front and back that taught me a lot about myself.

3. Next.. Start writing again about how having your life like the blue print above would be, how it would make you feel, most importantly not getting it and changing in that direction what pain would it cause.

4. Next... Start writing down everything that is keeping you from making the change and potential ways to get around it. My biggest things stemmed back to some bad interactions I had in life at 8 years old, 23 years old and ultimately my mothers death which happened 2 years ago. What I needed to do to get around these mental issues I had was to deal with the problems and get closure. Closure came when I realised how these life changing events were keeping me from my internal happiness. Hence the self realisation.

5. Last step, review, review, review... now that you have this done read it, learn from and keep this document someone handy that will allow you to review it anytime you find yourself slipping.

Now, my self realisation did come a bit late. I lost the person that was special and believed in me. She got to a point that she realised the person she fell in love with died and lost her hope. The day she moved on was officially one of the worst days of my life. The past still hurts, but I now have a positive outlook on life through the process of self realisation that xxxxxx and this person in my life prompted. The journey is one that I will forever be thankful for. The real me is back and I spend every day living life with passion.

Now, I don't claim to be a mental guru, but I have read my share of self help books. I just hope that this article finds itself into just one person’s hands that they are able to change their outcome before they lose what they cherish the most in their life as I did.

Life's Mysteries

Mystery does not lie only with the lost world of Atlantis, or the psychic definition of Pyramids, or the underlying obscurity of UFOs. Mystery itself, lies within ourselves.

"What distinguishes someone who listens to their inner guidance--who 'talks to GOD'--from someone who simply thinks they talk to God? The answer has to do with vibration and with stability. Money, for instance, is something that people feel gives them stability. But it is actually completely unstable. A business, to be successful, needs stability--stable laws, a stable currency. The same is true of relationships. You need a certain number of stable factors to hold a relationship together, a measure of agreement between the two parties. If it's not there, they have to renegotiate, or they break up. The point is, if you're going to base your life on something important, base it on something that's not going to change."

To tell if a person's really getting guidance from God or not, look at what they're doing. What are their actions? Are they helping people or not? If a person is really getting in touch with life, they'll be happier and they'll be giving more love. The very essence of this energy wave is love. If you think about what is keeping us alive, I can't think of anything more loving than that. So getting back to this idea of how to tell if you're in balance or not, ask the question: Is what you're doing helping you and other people gain some kind of love, in a survival sense, and is it making your life better?"

Everyone’s ‘Annavru’

It was a life well-lived. It was a life embellished with several achievements. Rajkumar, born 77 years ago in a tiny hamlet in Karnataka, was an actor of immense talent. From humble beginnings, he matured into an actor of great stature, on stage as well as the big screen.

A legend even when alive, the actor’s life was an open book. Rajkumar was actively involved in the Kannada film industry for a major part of the last century. Rajkumar will remain a guiding star to a generation of artistes.

It was in Gajanur near Chamarajanagar that Rajkumar was born. The day - April 24, the year 1929. His father was a noted theatre artiste - Singanallur Puttaswamaiah. His mother was Lakshmamma.
The actor was named Muthuraj as it was believed that he was born with the blessings of Muttathiraya. Muthuraj was rechristened as Rajkumar after he became an actor.
‘Anna’ was an epithet that millions of his fans chose for their hero.

Then came ‘Annavru’, affection mingled with respect. And that stuck. And Rajkumar reciprocated with the way he addressed his fans, ‘Abhimani Devarugalu’. An exalted position to his fans.
Rajkumar’s primary education was at the Government Primary School at Hirepura near Gajanur.
After completing his fourth standard, Rajkumar took to music lessons under the tutelage of his uncle Appaji Gowda.

At the same time, it was Puttaswamaiah’s dream that his son become an actor. It was as Balarama in the drama ‘Krishnaleela’ that Rajkumar made his debut on stage.

Rajkumar’s siblings, younger brother Varadappa, sister Sharadamma also donned roles in the play. A role in the movies was not too far away, and Rajkumar played one of the eleven saints in the film ‘Srinivasa Kalyana.’ And he was given remuneration of Rs 50. Incidentally, Rajkumar played the lead role in the colour film ‘Srinivasa Kalyana’.

Rajkumar acted in several plays from ‘Bhakta Ambareesha’ to ‘Bhu Kailasa’ and ‘Jagajyothi Basaveshwara.’ The actor’s father dreamt that his son make it big in the movies. But, that was not to be, for he soon passed away. Rajkumar was seen reminiscing about that several times during his career.

It was on June 25, 1953, that Rajkumar married his uncle’s daughter Parvathamma. It was a partnership that grew from strength to strength during his long career. ‘Bedarakannappa’ (1953) was Rajkumar’s first film as a lead actor. He followed it up with ‘Haribhakta’, ‘Ohileshwara’, ‘Mahishasura Mardhini’, ‘Abba Aa Hudugi’ and other films.

The actor completed a 100 films after 14 years of acting. It was ‘Bhagyada Bagilu’ which was his 100th film. ‘Gandhada Gudi’ was the 150th.

A record, It was a record of sorts when Rajkumar- starrer ‘Bangarada Manushya’ was screened for 104 consecutive weeks in the States movie hall in Bangalore.

Rajkumar acted in over 20 mythological films, including ‘Bhu Kailasa’, ‘Srikrishna Garudi’, ‘Dashavathara’, ‘Satya Harishchandra’, ‘Mahasathi Anasuya’, ‘Sathi Savithri’, ‘Mohini Bhasmasura’, ‘Srikannika Parameshwari Kathe’, ‘Parvathi Kalyana’, ‘Gange Gowri’, ‘Mahasathi Arundhati’, ‘Srikrishna Rukmini’, ‘Satyabhama’, ‘Babruvahana’ and ‘Bhakta Prahlada.’

Out of the notable historical films that Rajkumar acted in are ‘Jagajyothi Basaveshwara’, ‘Ranadheera Kanteerava,’ ‘Kittur Chennamma,’ ‘Sarvagnamurthy,’ ‘Srikrishnadevaraya,’ ‘Mayura,’ ‘Huliya Halina Mevu’ and ‘Immadi Pulikeshi.’

And to add to the sheer variety of roles, he also played James Bond-like characters in some films.

The other roles that won him adulation were in devotional films like ‘Bedara Kannappa,’ ‘Haribhakta,’ ‘Ohileshwara,’ ‘Bhakta Kanakadasa,’ ‘Santh Tukaram,’ ‘Navakoti Narayana,’ ‘Manthralaya Mahatme’ and ‘Bhakta Kumbara.’

The Malleswaram 'Hudugi'

HI ALL,

Just to scrap something about this GIRL And I can’t stop thinking about the early months of my relationship with this singer, months and days that were hectic and raw and so full of hope and panic that every day seemed like it would collapse in on itself. I love that almost five years into my relationship with her music, and an extra cover up in Citizen, a Tamil Movie with Ajith. She is Just an amazing Lady having wonderful Voice. I can hear a few notes and feel what it was like between us. And that is what this whole rambling entry was for, to say I am so happy I have brought music back into my life of this Beautifull Ladyz voice. She is just amazing, her voice makes u so energetic “The Malleshwaram Hudugi” thanks to Amritamati. S

Vasundhara Das is a Malleswaram girl. Her grandmother on her father's side used to sing Karnatak music. For those not familiar with Bangalore, Malleswaram is an old locality, like Basavangudi, where some of the city's most distinguished people live.

The Kannada writer G P Rajarathnam and Veena Doreswamy Iyengar were famous Malleswaram residents, and Vasundhara like them is an Iyengar. This is one of those localities that still loves to shop at old-fashioned flower and fruit markets, although big departmental stores have in recent years set up their businesses in re modeled buildings.

Malleswaram gets its name from the Kadu Malleswara temple, an ancient Shiva shrine whose beautiful granite tank was unearthed five or six years ago. It is also a locality that loves traditional music. Malleswaram Sangeeta Sabha and Ananya conduct classical music concerts regularly.

Vasundhara is a new generation Malleswaram-ite, singing pop and rock, and perhaps more comfortable in the "hip-hep-hyped" parts of Bangalore than in old Bangalore. She was a star performer at Channel V's road show on 2 March. But her links with the old Bangalore remain: she has been a student of Pandit Parameshwar Hegde (a student of Pandit Basavaraj Rajguru), incidentally also a Malleswaram resident.

In a chat with The Music Magazine, from which we have transcribed the earlier narrative, she said her present acting and singing assignments don't allow her the time to catch up with her classical music lessons. Although she would like to sing Hindustani music professionally, she feels she hasn't had enough practice to do it. The really touching part was when she spoke about her desire to remain with music even after all the glamour stuff was done. She described A R Rahman as "an intelligent man", and recalled the experience of recording the Mudhalvan song Shakalaka baby. Once that song became a hit, she was called for several Tamil recordings, and one producer gave her songs she found utterly distasteful. She firmly refused to sing them and flew back.

Vasundhara's father is into various businesses, including real estate, and works from home. Her mother works at the Indian Institute of Science, which is close by. They live in an old-fashioned house (one of the that few that hasn't been demolished to make way for an apartment block) on a main road.

Books - That changed My Life

A word can change The Supreme's Concious Life...

Lately I’ve really gotten into historical fiction. I feel like that’s a great way to learn about the past in a less boring way than reading a history text book. I recently read Lord of the Congo by Peter Forbath. That was a well-written, very interesting book about Central African history. I also finally got around to reading The DaVinci Code. I resisted reading it for a long time, because of all of the hype about it. However, it definitely lives up to all of the hype. I liked the way it wrapped all together. It didn’t leave any holes unplugged. At the end you wonder if this is really true, or maybe it is completely fictional, you just don’t know. The Making of a Champion by William Nack An excellent biography. An American Girl in Hitler's Germany. One of Garner's haunting childhood memories is the sound of knocking coming from the rubble of newly bombed buildings in Berlin, where she and her family spent the war years. She feared the sound was from doomed victims signaling for help, which could not get to them in time. In this stunning memoir, Garner tells the survival story of civilians in Hitler's Germany, The century for Young People, This Land Was Made For You and Me. A memorable biography of a talented artist and understated proponent of social change.

Good Karma - The Blood

For the first time ever, I donated blood In my life thats In the month of March. The process was surprisingly painful. In order to combat my apparantly sluggish blood flow, the nurse kept adjusting the angle of the fairly large needle. So it felt like she was stabbing the sides of my vein. And just before I went, some blood-giving vet just ahead of me had a seizure, right in front of me. Needless to say, I was slightly more nervous after that. But I have to say, I felt lighter when I was done. Maybe because of the lost blood. Anyway, planning to do it again in June or July.

Keep looking until you find it... Don't settle

Steve Jobs,

CEO of Apple Computer and of Pixar Animation Studios, delivered an inspiring talkon June 12, 2005 to the Stanford graduates. His talk was in three parts.Here we have the second part of that talk where he talks about love and loss.

I was lucky - I found what I loved to do early in life. Woz and I started Apple inmy parents garage when I was 20. We worked hard, and in 10 years Apple hadgrown from just the two of us in a garage into a $2 billion company with over 4000 employees.We had just released our finest creation - the Macintosh - a year earlier, and I had just turned 30.And then I got fired. How can you get fired from a company you started? Well, as Apple grewwe hired someone who I thought was very talented to run the company with me, and for the first yearor so things went well. But then our visions of the future began to diverge and eventually we had a falling out. When we did, our Board of Directors sided with him. So at 30 I was out. And very publicly out.What had been the focus of my entire adult life was gone, and it was devastating.

I really didn't know what to do for a few months. I felt that I had let the previous generation of entrepreneurs down - that I had dropped the baton as it was being passed to me. I met with David Packard and Bob Noyce and tried to apologize for screwing up so badly. I was a very public failure, and I even thought about running away from the valley. But something slowly began to dawn on me - I still loved what I did. The turn of events at Apple had not changed that one bit. I had been rejected, but I was still in love. And so I decided to start over.

I didn't see it then, but it turned out that getting fired from Apple was the best thing that could have ever happened to me. The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life.

During the next five years, I started a company named NeXT, another company named Pixar,and fell in love with an amazing woman who would become my wife. Pixar went on to create the world's first computer animated feature film, Toy Story, and is now the most successfulanimation studio in the world. In a remarkable turn of events, Apple bought NeXT, I retunedto Apple, and the technology we developed at NeXT is at the heart of Apple's current renaissance. And Laurene and I have a wonderful family together.

I'm pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it.

Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don't lose faith. I'm convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You've got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on.

So keep looking until you find it.......... Don't settle.

My Greatest Setbacks Or Disappointments

I have been very fortunate in that I have not experienced any major setbacks. After I graduated from college I worked for a year before going on to specialisation school. During that time I had a lot of difficulty coming to grips with the real world and reality. That was a big struggle for me because I had so many idealistic perspectives about how the world was going to be and what I would be doing. And then I got out there. I had a lot of people try to warn me, like my parents and my sisters, but until I got out there myself I didn’t realise how you have to balance reality with your dreams. It was kind of tough.

For example, I had an idealistic view of being able to make changes in the corporate environment I was working in. When you’re in college, there is so much more support for students to be active, take the initiative and to make changes in student organisations (not really in the administration). But in the corporate world there is so much bureaucracy and so many layers you have to go through. It was very disheartening. It is still upsetting to me now, but I realise that this is what I have to work with and changes can still be made.

I’m so glad I had a year’s experience before going back to multimedia school because I would have had no idea what it is really like in the world of work. That one year taught me a lot. When I interview creative people that have gone straight from creation to visuals, I’m always amazed that they know, or think they know, what they want without ever sampling the real world. I was able to use that one year of experience to adequately prepare myself for life after graduation. I wouldn’t have known what I wanted if I hadn’t had a taste of the real world.

Astonishing Facts About the Silicon Valley of india - Bangalore

Bangalore was a name coined by Britishers for the conventional name BENDA KAALUURO (meaning "cooked peas").

Recently it is popularly accepted as Bangy or B'LORE.

Bangalore has highest number of pubs in India. Bangalore has the highest number of breweries in the world.

Bangalore was the first city in India to receive Electricity.

Bangalore has only 42% of local population (i.e. Kannadigas). Hence a true cosmopolitan with around 20% Tamilians, 13% Telugites, 10% Keralites, 8% European-origin, 7% from other parts of India.

Bangalore is the only city in the world to have Commercial and Defence Airport operating in same locality.

Bangalore has the impeccable record of highest growth within a span of 20 years [as of Jan 2006]

Bangalore has the highest number of 2-wheelers in the world.

Bangalore has the highest density of traffic in the world.

Bangalore is considered the fashion capital of the East comparable to Paris.

Bangalore has produced the maximum number of scientists considered for Nobel Prize nominations (from India).

Bangalore has the richest people in India. The line of poverty is the least Compared to all other cities of India.

Bangalore has 21 engineering colleges within the City Limits, which is highest in the world in a given city.

Bangalore has the highest number of software professionals in the world taking the first place from Osaka, Japan.

Bangalore has the highest number of software companies in India, followed by Hyderabad, Chennai & Pune. Hence called the Silicon Valley of India.

My mom!!!

She was an incredible influence. She taught us to be proud of our culture and heritage. Growing up not only as an ethnic minority, but also a religious minority required a great deal of strength in a small southern City of India!

My mom was a stay at home mom, but she always encouraged my sisters and me to get an excellent education and have a career. She taught us to be independent and to stand on our own feet. She also impressed upon us that being a mother was the most important job that we’d ever have, but if the need ever arises, we should be prepared to stand on our own.

My mom and I were very close when I was growing up. She didn’t like that I choose defense as a career – she wanted me to be a engineer like my father and my sister and everyone else they knew that. That’s all she knew. I entertained the idea of becoming a doctor for a short while, but I knew that wasn’t what I wanted to do. So it took her and my dad a while to warm up to the idea. But now, they like having family members in different professions! They found that Visual arts wasn’t really all that bad, and now they are very happy about my decision (specially My sister)