Becoming a future leader in organized crime

What is the meaning of life? Why are we here? Is there a God or isn’t there, and if there is a God, Why do we call nature as God? What is Love? What is its nature? Of all the world’s religions, which one is the most correct? Is there an afterlife? Why do we fall in love? Why is she and He made for? Are we primarily physical beings or spiritual beings?

Do you have answers for these questions???

People have struggled for millennia to tackle these questions. Wars have been fought over them. But as much as these questions cause people to lose their heads (sometimes figuratively, sometimes literally), the bottom line is that these are very practical questions.

Behind the Wheel !!!
The way we answer these questions will provide the ultimate context for everything else we do with our lives. If we place any value on our lives at all, we must give some consideration to these questions.

Let’s say you have your life organized around goals, projects, and actions. You set a goal like starting a new internet business. You break it down into projects like writing a business plan and launching your web site. And then you break those projects down into actions like going to the bank to open a business account and registering your domain name. Fair enough.

But why start the business in the first place? What’s the point? Why pick this goal vs. any other goal? Why even set goals at all?

What determines the goals you set (or don’t set) is your context. Your context is your collection of beliefs and values. So if the values of money and freedom are part of your context, you might be inclined to set a goal to start a new business. But with different kinds of values — a different context — you may be disinclined to set goals at all.

The most significant part of your context is your collection of beliefs about the nature of reality, which includes your truths, religious, spiritual, and philosophical beliefs. Your overall beliefs about the universe will largely determine your results. Context dictates goals. Goals dictate projects. Projects dictate actions. Actions dictate results.

Within a certain context, it will be virtually impossible for you to achieve certain results because you’ll never set the required goals that will lead to those results.

Your context works like a filter. When you are inside a particular context, you lose access to the potential goals, projects, and actions that lie outside that context. For example, if your context includes the belief that criminal behavior is very bad, then you aren’t likely to work towards becoming a future leader in organised crime.

Dont claim to be a mental guru...

Everyone you talk to will ultimately give you different advice on what a successful relationship is all about, what it consists of and how to make it work. After many years of troubled relationships and being places for the wrong reasons I realise there is only one place you can find the answers to your relationship and life problems and that is within yourself. So the journey of self realisation begins. My goal of this blog is to hopefully help people along that journey of self realisation.

My journey of enlightenment started 2 years ago when my mom passed away from Heart Attack. At that time I had such an awesome person in my life from a Elegant perspective, great friends, and what I would consider a well balanced life. When you lose someone that means so much to you and you don't deal with the loss you tend to shut down so no one can touch you in a way that is meaningful. Anything that happens to you that causes immense amounts of sadness, guilt, resentment and pain you ultimately need closure around or you start distancing yourself from life. If you don't get closure your mind starts building, for lack of better words, walls. These walls ultimately in your subconscious mind keeps you safe. Let me tell you two words that describes that process best though is.. MENTAL DEATH. Your friends, family and that special someone in your life ultimately loses you so I think Death of yourself is most appropriate.

Run, stay busy, ignore the obvious, don't let the pain catch you, don't reflect, don't get to close to anyone are some of the best ways I can describe what goes on in your head. Again, most of this going on while you really aren't aware of what you are doing because most of it is going on in your subconscious. Friends go away, you ultimately drive that special someone in your life away because they ultimately get tired of trying to connect. Sadness reigns, self esteem drops and ultimately the person everyone loved so much prior to these life altering events experiences DEATH of ones self. Now one might say why not end it just get it over with, well I would be lying if I said that never crossed my mind but I just don't have it in me to quit at anything its not how my DNA is wired. I do feel sorry for those that aren't wired in the same way and choose that path so hopefully this journal may help someone that is wired differently push though as opposed to giving up.

I feel today I sit in front of you writing this as a changed person and it is due to self realisation. Two factors played into this for me and that is having someone special in my life that didn't give up on me coupled with the final leg of the journey and that was getting extremely ill for 3 months with xxxxxx. Now I wouldn't suggest going out and getting xxxxxx to hit this point of self realisation, because it can absolutely be done without it. xxxxxx gave me 3 months of down time to reflect on my relationships, the past, my priorities what I wanted out of life etc. Instead of xxxxxx what I would suggest is the following:

1. Get yourself a note book, sit in a quiet place and just think about you and your life for a while until you get to a point you have a lot of emotion brewing inside.

2. Start WRITTING.. what you want out of life, where you want to go, who you want to be, how you want people to view you etc.. etc.. etc.. most importantly if you want that special someone in your life write down what you out of that relationship and how you visualise it.. most important and this is key be VERY descriptive of the above.. when I did this several months ago I came up with over 10 pages front and back that taught me a lot about myself.

3. Next.. Start writing again about how having your life like the blue print above would be, how it would make you feel, most importantly not getting it and changing in that direction what pain would it cause.

4. Next... Start writing down everything that is keeping you from making the change and potential ways to get around it. My biggest things stemmed back to some bad interactions I had in life at 8 years old, 23 years old and ultimately my mothers death which happened 2 years ago. What I needed to do to get around these mental issues I had was to deal with the problems and get closure. Closure came when I realised how these life changing events were keeping me from my internal happiness. Hence the self realisation.

5. Last step, review, review, review... now that you have this done read it, learn from and keep this document someone handy that will allow you to review it anytime you find yourself slipping.

Now, my self realisation did come a bit late. I lost the person that was special and believed in me. She got to a point that she realised the person she fell in love with died and lost her hope. The day she moved on was officially one of the worst days of my life. The past still hurts, but I now have a positive outlook on life through the process of self realisation that xxxxxx and this person in my life prompted. The journey is one that I will forever be thankful for. The real me is back and I spend every day living life with passion.

Now, I don't claim to be a mental guru, but I have read my share of self help books. I just hope that this article finds itself into just one person’s hands that they are able to change their outcome before they lose what they cherish the most in their life as I did.